It can be helpful to be curious about the catalyst that got a particular pattern going in our lives. When we can hold the origin story in conscious awareness, the patterning power usually softens and lessens in intensity. This allows us to access more balanced ways of responding in the present.

Emotional and behavioural grooves can become so deep and familiar that they become part of our identity. When we are habituated to a certain emotional response pattern, we often assume that “this is just who I am”. We are no longer running the pattern. The pattern is running us.